Where is the line of relationship? How does love become a simple set of letters, and a loved one a stranger? How to understand that you have passed the point of no return and there will be no continuation? Difficult questions that are also difficult to find answers ...
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Remember how it all began? Views crossed, interest arose: dating, kisses, wedding. And then the happy father meets you on the threshold of the maternity hospital, holds a small bundle in his hands, turns his head in your direction and says with delight: "Oh, it moves."
An endless marathon that never seemed to end: diapers, sleepless nights, first tooth and long-awaited first steps, kindergarten, illness, school, twos, fights, first love, exams ... Arguments with a husband about raising a child, holidays spent together , joint forays into nature and going to the cinema ... Responsibility, fatigue and, at the same time, a sea of love.
There is no time to think, stop: life in cares, affairs. It seems that it is forever and never will be otherwise.
But it happened - the children grew up, the son and daughter have their own lives, they appear less and less on the threshold. Spouses were left alone with each other.
If you still love each other, moving children away will only strengthen the relationship. But what if once, when you opened your eyes in the morning, you realize that, despite a quarter-century of living together, the binding material for marriage, for many years, were only children?
Loneliness together
Next to you, in an empty apartment, is the person you once loved. And what do you know about your husband now, what is his concern, what is he thinking about? Do you still want to fall asleep and wake up nearby, as you spend your free time with him, able to turn a blind eye to his shortcomings?
What to do if it became unbearably boring and dreary.
Willing to compromise
Calm down, leave everything as it was, do not think and do not clog your head with illusions. Find a reasonable compromise and continue living together, go with the flow. Common household, meeting with friends and relatives, familiar sex. Swamp? Yes, but it is so cozy, warm and familiar. How long do you think you will last?
New round
Go to the new stage of relations. Remember the moments when you were happy. If you want to return them - act and, quite likely, you will have to go through a new round of feelings and emotions. To break up relations and to dismantle the walls built by brick is simple, it is much more difficult to reanimate relations.
If next to you you want to see a man with whom the best years have been lived, and not just live next door, but to love and be loved - everything is in your hands. Add romance to your life, be bolder in bed, spend more time together, find common interests - and a nook warming in the farthest corner of your heart will flare up again.
Have you ever wondered how your beloved man will respond to the words: "Honey, I'm expecting a child"?
Emptiness
Is it worth keeping the family visibility where there is not a drop of warmth and understanding where He and She live their lives and do not need each other at all? If you see only emptiness and disappointment, if there is nothing to reanimate - part. There is no love left, and the train of old relationships pulls and does not give the opportunity to leave - cut along the living. Categorically, hard? Yes, but life is too fleeting to waste it on NOTHING.
It is impossible to take and simply forget a person with whom a lot is connected. Give up gratefully - you stood with him at the altar, raised children, a sincere feeling united you.
Start over and you will see that the interesting and significant in this life is not over. Ahead of extraordinary meetings and unexpected discoveries.
You are afraid of conviction - you are no longer 20, not even 30, and at your age you are free to do what you want.
And I wanted to go anywhere, close my house and not find the key. But I believed - not everything is still gone until the light fades, while the candle is lit
Eternal love is just a beautiful fairy tale. Over time, it fades away and you understand that you no longer need each other or develops into another feeling, more serious. It is difficult for him to give a name, he just comes to understand that a person is near, without which further existence is difficult or even impossible.
In life often there are times when you need to make a difficult choice. Stay or leave? Everyone makes the decision himself. But think, and maybe there is no crisis, can love not go away? She, like you, has become different: balanced, adult? And you feel good only because a close person exists, lives nearby. Maybe this is happiness, do not lose it.
